Let's face it: It's incredibly sexy to observe someone else experiencing sexual pleasure. When partners are truly tuned in to each other, oral sex can be just as arousing and pleasurable to give as it is to receive. But to get the most enjoyment from giving oral sex to another person, one needs to be exceptionally present during the act. If you are giving your partner oral pleasure simply as a means to an end, then you probably won't enjoy it as much. Getting into the mindset that you are pleasuring your partner for your own stimulation as well can be a real game-changer.
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Everything You Need to Know About Oral Sex
Penis-in-vagina sex is not the be-all-end-all of sex. Oral sex can be just as pleasurable — if not more so — than penetrative sex. You know whose genital juice tastes like cookies and cream? We all have a taste down there.
Just like the rest of your sex routine, oral benefits from mixing it up. For those with vulvas, there are typically two kinds of toys that mimic the pleasure of oral sex: suction vibrators that feel like suction and use waves and vibration for ultra-intense oral feeling and faux-tongue-like toys that have rubber or silicone nubbins that mimic the more superficial feeling of a literal tongue on your vulva. For faux-tongue-mimicry, we like the Lelo Ora 3, which has a thin layer of silicone stretched over a drum with a tongue-like nubbin that moves in circles and different patterns, that along with vibration, can feel very real. You can also use these toys with a partner the next time your tongue gets tired, or show your partner how you like to be pleasured.